Katie July 17, 2012, 9:42 am

We agree to you… i dunno. Its difficult. I recently know personally i couldnt just let your ex glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. I’ve done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply anyone I will be.

Like i stated, i wouldnt walk out my solution to make an effort to keep in touch with her, but she will turn her focus from the LW being an issue to the guy being the issue, which is what is going on if she sets the record straight with the girlfriend, hopefully.

Katie July 17, 2012, 9:50 am

As well as, exactly just what can you want to bet they talk all the time that he is feeding his new girlfriend the whole “crazy ex” routine to explain why? And was operating into one another actually just a coincidence?

Nadine 17, 2012, 9:52 am july

I’m able to understand why you’d believe that means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but We browse the page to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, maybe maybe not the ex-BF relationship that is current. Thats simply a complicator. The LW can just only get a handle on her very own actions, and ignore the ex-BF calling and being inconvenient. Their relationship with new GF is none of her company, and honestly, the 2 girls don’t need to be buddies after all. It might you should be an additional connect to the man for the LW, that is attempting to cut psychological ties.

Katie July 17, 2012, 9:54 am

Thats a point that is good sure!

<p>Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am

Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I accustomed be buddies with this particular set of dudes whom used to have such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy in it after a few weeks and I’d get actually astonished, cos they seemed therefore normal if you ask me? Then we realised it ended up beingn’t the girls, its the people. As well as the girls had been all people that are just normal, you understand, desired to determine if that they had a boyfriend or not…….

Katie 17, 2012, 10:04 am july

Yea. Its love, when that takes place enough times- what’s the typical denominator? YOU MIGHT BE!!

I do feel detrimental to this GF that is new. She deserves to own a guy’s complete attention. And she deserves some guy who isnt hung through to their ex, calling her and telling her which he nevertheless longs for her and material. Thats messed up! And she most likely hates the LW because this woman is being told by the man a lot of crap about her. Its simply all incorrect. The whole thing.

Nadine 17, 2012, 10:09 am july

Personally I think bad on her behalf too, but she has to watch out for by herself. Its difficult being the girlfriend that is first a long relationship, but thats generally why a lot of people go into all of them with their eyes available. Oh and the man has to quit dropping “But i’ve a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. We keep imagining him carrying it out the real means the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, perhaps you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”

Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:25 am july

Yeah that “but I have a girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW understands he features a GF, he could be simply seeking a effect everytime he states it. He desires the LW become like “well I don’t care if you do have a GF, i am going to still blow you” or “Dump that skank, and get back to me”

Katie 17, 2012, 10:27 am july

Yea, its like whenever i was in twelfth grade and me personally and my boyfriend would separation any other week, in which he would “accidently” text me personally or something like that just therefore we would fight to get right back together.

Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 2:45 pm

@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight and obtain straight straight back together”

Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 10:05 am july

I’ve said right right here a whole lot, if the man whips out of the word “crazy” I run one other method. I’m sure therefore lots of men whom utilize that word to full cover up with regards to their dickish behavior.

Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am

We don’t understand why individuals would phone some body crazy within the first place. I recently state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and leave it at that. The simple fact which you put a “crazy” label onto it, makes me think you are the one which loves to stir the muck.

Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am

Also, if you’re ready to phone somebody crazy, wouldn’t which means that you may be kinda crazy also?

Rilooyah July 17, 2012, 4:44 pm

Therefore real! As soon as the “crazy” comes away, Im operating one other method. I do believe it had been stated above- whenever you attract the crazy, the denominator that is common constantly YOU, friend.

Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:21 am

To be honest, that it really is partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he could be in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this occurred to her she most likely will be upset about this too, and yet she will continue to respond to this dudes calls and even though he keeps stating that he could be dreaming about her, and all sorts of of the bull shit.

Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 10:26 am

Yep! We completely agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk for this woman since your just planning to cause drama. You must just understand he’s maybe not your boyfriend and also if you nevertheless like their attention, the reality that you realize he has got a gf is causing you to a negative man in this too.

Katie 17, 2012, 10:35 am july

This is certainly a point that is great you dudes. I didnt think about it like this.

So LW, if you actually do respect their relationship and wish them happyness, leave them alone!! Like eljay (I enjoy you, eljay) said, somebody needs to function as the adult in this case. If he could be maybe not ready to be, you need to do it.

Painted_lady July 17, 2012, 2:17 pm

Amen bestie – we accept you about talking towards the gf. That knows exactly what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their talking so frequently, but as the relationship is none of the company, the fact the LW in addition to brand new gf have met now i believe permits the LW some leeway. If I’d held it’s place in a predicament where a pal brought some body around that I experienced learned about and wanted to be friends with (I’m likely to assume that the LW wishes that? ) and it went horribly, i would touch base and get, hey, I’m therefore sorry that went defectively. She doesn’t fundamentally need certainly to say, “Hey, so that your boyfriend was saying _____ to me and he’s the main one calling, and then he explained you had been fine with this specific, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went poorly, I became underneath the impression you had been fine with this being buddies, but i simply understood I’m perhaps perhaps not ok with your being friends either, therefore it’s no problem anymore. ”

Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:37 am

I’dn’t speak with the gf relating to this. I would want is their ex of 3 years reaching out to me if I were dating someone for two months the last thing. And simply to inform you you respect her relationship? I might think you had been bullshitting me personally and playing mind games. Just just just Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex partner you don’t would you like to hear them alone from him for a while, and then leave. Seriously they probably won’t workout because you might be nevertheless within the image (which doesn’t do great things for a brand new relationship), but allow them work that out themselves.

Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:39 am

Oh in addition, if we were the brand new gf and my bf and I also went into their ex at a club I would personally additionally need we leave straight away. It is therefore uncomfortable. Every person pretends they can be” that is“mature remain buddies with exes and stay completely okay as soon as your SO’s ex turns up, but why? You don’t have actually become okay with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of three years.

Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:28 am